There are all kinds of photos that don't belong in online-dating profiles: the shirtless selfie; the faraway shot or the artsy pic where it's hard to tell what the person looks like; the group shot where it's hard to tell whose profile it is; the photo with a child where it's hard to tell if that's a nephew or a son; or anything with sunglasses. Yes, even if he's "just hunting."I'm not opposed to dating a gun owner.
(If you can't look me in the eye while mediated by a screen, how will you do it in person? The man I dated most recently was in the military and, I learned as I got to know him, kept an unloaded gun in his house.
Kaspersky Lab and B2B International jointly researched online dating site users’ patterns of behavior and the threats they encounter.
We found out what type of information users are prepared to share with strangers and why (and about what) so many of them lie. Of our survey respondents, 57% admit that they embellish reality on dating sites.
But if it's something you do once a year, then perhaps you want to leave it off because it is so polarizing."There's a big difference between a man who happens to own a gun vs.
a man who showcases his love of firearms in his dating profile. In the same way that my Bumble guy's profile said: Traveling is a huge part of my life.
The ubiquity of the gun photo differs depending on where you're swiping.
Based on my online-dating experience searching mostly 30-something men in the Washington, D.
Online-dating profiles offer sound bites about a person as opposed to a nuanced debate about gun control that you might have over dinner or drinks. That's not what these men mean to convey with images of themselves hunting or practicing at the shooting range? But here's what these men might not realize when they create these profiles: As a woman, I'm already very aware that I could be the target of violence at any time -- whether I'm walking home at night or I'm out with a Tinder date.The same thing happens with women, in that conventionally attractive (slim and young) female visitors see five times as many messages as “medium” women, and 28 times as many as women judged unattractive do.If we consider that the likelihood of an encounter grows with more messages received, it’s no wonder both men and women embellish their photos and profiles.When gun ownership is among the first things I learn about someone, it becomes a much bigger piece of a narrower characterization, a visual that says: Ladies, look at me and my gun(s). To be looking for love, on the internet or anywhere else, means that at best I meet the love of my life. At worst, I meet someone who sends me unsolicited pictures of his genitalia (according to Match, about half of single women have received one); someone who stalks or harasses me; someone who assaults me; someone who is verbally or physically abusive.Perhaps I escape that abusive relationship alive (though half of female homicides are perpetrated by a current or former male intimate partner).
Perhaps that ex goes on to gun down strangers at a concert or a softball game.