Side effects of dating a narcissist
Are you the one who’s always apologising after rows?Then you may well be with a narcissist, because they don’t believe that they can do any wrong. It’s her fault for spying on me.’ One minute you’re on a pedestal at the very centre of their universe, the next, you can’t do anything right. Trying to persuade you that perfectly normal behaviour is somehow wrong is classic narcissist behaviour.Nobody likes criticism, of course, but narcissists can go nuclear at the slightest hint of it – which is ironic, because they’re quick enough to dish it out to others.Their response to even minor criticism is usually to fight, or to go completely cold.
Narcissists don’t like it if the subject isn’t about them, and they will interrupt conversations to redirect them. You’ll notice a huge difference between how they are to people in public and what they say about them in private.One minute you may feel like everything your partner has ever wanted, and the next you're left wandering what on Earth went wrong.This is because narcissists are great at playing a part while they're getting something from their source, according to Orloff.But when they're done using you, they have no difficulty in casting you aside like a used tissue.There will be no apologies or remorse, and you may well never hear from them again, regardless of how long your relationship was.
Splitting from a narcissist isn’t easy, and the relationship is likely to have seriously dented your self-esteem.