Dating as friends
Complaining about being “friendzoned” is incredibly harmful to our relationships and can cripple our capacity for both healthy friendships and healthy relationships.The friendship-first approach is not an isolated theory. Our existing friends have always been our best source of referrals.
The most influential line I ever read about cultivating friendships & relationships actually came from a nondescript Geocities page that I stumbled across in 2003.The next week, I hosted a board game night and invited her so she could meet some of my friends.Over the course of our time together, we talked about plenty of our romantic and sexual preferences, but neither of us pressed for anything physical.Last year, I met a girl named Jessica on Ok Cupid and we agreed to meet up and go on an adventure date throughout Seattle.We explored new neighborhoods, meandered through parks, and people-watched out of a coffee shop’s balcony.
Jessica later introduced me to yet another awesome friend in San Francisco, and once again, her friend and I ended up having amazing chemistry.