Dating a man in his 40s
, Steve Harvey — the comedian, actor and writer — gives straightforward advice on how men think and what they’re really looking for in a partner. Harvey’s book sober, but a chaser would have been nice on a few occasions where I found myself choking on his words — he continuously refers to sex as “the cookie” and talks about why women should wait 90 days to give it out.
However, his insight into how men think — and his bluntness in passing on this information — has sold many copies and helped countless women find, keep and understand men.
“Wisdom is education plus experience,” says David Bennett, a relationship expert and author of numerous books including A 40-something has come to appreciate that he needs to keep acquiring education, whether that’s updating his skills for work or simply boosting his dinner-party skills (a recent Pew study found that the older people get, the more they read).
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He may slowly start to re-evaluate his playful dating games and take a long, hard look at the kind of women he’s been seeing — and the kind he wants to end up with.
You know how to treat a woman, you know that “new” doesn’t always mean “better,” and you can take bad news better than any-damn-body.
And once you’re caught up on these, be sure to purge your life of the 40 things no man over 40 should ever own.
Men in their 20s: Many men in their early 20s devote their brainpower to two main things: how they can play the field to perfection, and which career path to take (whether they’ll pick up a trade, continue with school, etc.).
Money and job status are less of an issue, and the chances of him being mature enough to take a monogamous relationship seriously aren’t high.
However, a lot of this depends on the age in which a man becomes, in his mind, successful, as research shows that home ownership and earnings affect a man’s marital decisions.